A visitor on a women’s forum wrote "Girls, I need your advice. The problem is that during sex different thoughts about the house, children, and various problems come into my head. Because of this I can’t get excited and cannot cum". Isn’t it true that each of us could recognize ourselves in these words?
In the previous article ”Here and Now” describes how to distract ourselves from unnecessary thoughts in everyday life. It presents the practice of focusing on different parts of the body. In sex, it is also very productive to switch consciousness to what is happening in the body: both inside and outside. His hand touches my chest, they are warm/cold/rough. I feel the waves coming from my chest to my stomach, etc. runaway from thoughts to sensations, to what is happening here and now. Make every effort to savor these feelings, to feel every little detail. Do not be distracted by thoughts during an orgasm also. For example, many fantasize themselves in the arms of a prince, a well-known actor, etc. Even positive thoughts distract you from sensations. Therefore, let’s say you are approaching a clitoral orgasm. No princes! All the focus should be only on the sensations in the clitoral region! Not only do we savor these sensations, but we do not leave energy in the same place. We can spread it all over the body; raise it to the heart, then to the head. When I first used this tantric technique, I was shocked at how much my pleasure increased. And when I managed to push this energy up to the head, the brain just exploded with pleasure. The orgasm was much stronger and longer.
Sneaky thoughts will try to distract you from the buzz, but do not give up. Over time they will become less and less noticeable! You can imagine a switch in your head; as soon as thoughts come in immediately turn the switch to pleasure. You can create within yourself a space of bliss - a cozy warm sheltered corner. As soon as thoughts start to pour with cold rain, immediately hide in this space, enjoying your loved one's touches, kisses, etc. These techniques work! It takes only a little effort at first and self-confidence!
I would like to share two tantric techniques to expand the range of your pleasure and improve your energy skills. The techniques are proven and work very well. The first one is for women, the second is for men. As before most of you will need a visualization for the first time. As I already mentioned visualization is followed by actualization. Over time it will become a true experience.
For this technique, the muscles of the vagina should be sufficiently developed. You can apply it in any pose with penetration. The woman visualizes her yoni (vagina in Sanskrit) as a cylinder, consisting of luminous gold rings. Each ring is a separate segment of the yoni. Squeezing and relaxing the rings she massages the lingam (penis in Sanskrit). True masters manipulate the golden rings, as they were the keys of a musical instrument. If you have not yet mastered this art at such a level, it is enough to just squeeze and relax the vagina. The woman visualizes how she charges her partner's lingam with powerful energy. Both partners must visualize how this energy spreads all over the man's body through his lingam. "Tongs" is one of the variations of the "Golden Rings". On the inhalation, the woman sucks the lingam deep inside, pulling the yoni muscles up. Then, on holding her breath, she keeps the penis inside for as long as possible, imagining how she bathes it with her blessed energy. On the exhalation, she completely relaxes the muscles of the vagina. The man inhales on her exhalation, imagining how her golden sweet energy rises along the spine to his upper chakras.
The book describing this technique says: "You have the power to awaken her pleasure beyond belief." I absolutely confirm this! When Mike first used this method, I was covered by a whole series of orgasms with ejaculation. Before that, I had squirting, but not during simple penetration: I needed a complex combination of oral and manual manipulations. Ejaculations that happened this time, were very much like showers of light of some unearthly origin, like for the heroines from the article "Contagious Squirting" Elena and Marina.
In tantra, the penis is called the lingam, which in Sanskrit means “the Wand of Light.” A man visualizes his lingam as a magic wand and charges it with all his love and light.